My mind is a bit blown right now, after reading about how two lesbian mamas share breastfeeding duties. That is one of the areas which V has admitted to jealousy when we talk about our eventual baby. I very much want to nurse, hopefully to about a year (though we'll see), and she's mentioned before that my connection to the baby via boob in addition to biology might make her feel understandably left out.
I'll definitely have to do more research into this lactation-induction, but it might be a way to simplify some of the strains that a baby might bring. Of course, I'm still worried about me: Harlyn Aisley's essay collection, Confessions of the Other Mother, talks about her feelings of going through labor and then wanting to smack her partner, who picked up the newborn and said something along the lines of "I'm your mother!"
I worry I'll be that person, that partner, that mother. I want a baby so badly that I worry I'll be possessive, that I would even if her other parent were male. I want V to be happy - it will be her baby, too. But will her breastfeeding, if it works, make that feeling even worse? Not that that is a legitimate reason not to pursue it.
I'm thinking out loud, while she's reading tax info to me. I know I'm not the most coherent; my brain isn't overly coherent about it, either. But I'm still in the mind-blown stage that we could even conceive (pun intended) of both nursing our baby. And hey, less middle of the night work for me!